I have decided to find out if it is possible to have it all. I’ve been thinking about this since I have 5 children and a full time job. My grandma is convinced that I will be an old lady by the time I’m 40 because I will run myself to death. I don’t think that is true. But there are days, most days, where it feels like there is too much to do. Not enough money and everything is a mess. AAAGH!!! We’ve all read the books, we know what should be done. We just can’t seem to make it happen. I am determined to make it happen, and if I can do it, so can you. A few very important things you need to know about me, I’m ADD, and type Z personality. Never heard of Type Z? I’m sure you’ve heard of type A. We all know some type A’s. You may be type A. I have some friends I would classify as A+. Being type A will drive you, and everyone around you, crazy. Then there is type B, which basically means, not type A. Well I am type Z, as far from type A as you can get. The bad news: My house, and my life, are a mess. The good news: It doesn’t really bother me, most of the time. But I don’t “have it all.”
What does it mean to have it all? I thought that was the first question that needs to be answered. How can you have it all, if you don’t know what “it all” is? Even worse, how would you know if you already had “it all”???!!!!
I have defined having it all. The simplest definition possible. This definition should be true for everyone. The details of it will change from person to person, but it will basically be the same. Are you on pins and needles yet?
Having it all: “You, and your immediate family, are happy and healthy.” Well, let me revise: “You and your immediate family are as happy and healthy as possible.”
It’s the “as possible” that makes it different. My family is happy, and healthy. But we could all be happier and healthier. An important thing about children being happy and healthy is they need to also know how to be happy and healthy adults. This is the trick.
Since everyone has different things that make them happy, this will adjust to each person. But I think we can all agree, you have to be healthy. My “immediate family” is my household. My children, my husband, and my pets. These are the people that I have control over, and with whom I interact every single day. This means, I have to define happiness for each one of these people, if I intend for each one of them to be happy.
What are the keys to being healthy and happy? Money, Time and Spaces. These three things are not mutual exclusive, they go hand in hand. You need a happy, neat environment that makes you feel relaxed and is conductive to productivity. You need money to pay for things, EVERYTHING costs money. Finally you need time to do the things you have to do as well as the things you want to do. So my problems? My house is small and messy. My ADD causes me to spend money recklessly (there is no savings). I have 5 children and a full time job. I double dare you to find time in my schedule. As far as healthy goes, I am 30 pounds overweight, I don’t exercise, and my diet is, meh. These are my children’s problems as well. How can we do things they want to do if there is no time, and no money? How can they be happy and relaxed at home if it is small and messy? How can they be healthy if they don’t exercise and eat junk food/ fast food/ ravioli from a can? Sounds pretty bad. I hope I don’t get depressed!
I will make changes, I will have it all, and I will be as happy and healthy as I can be, and so will my family.
You need to identify the same things in your life. We all want more time, and we all want more money. We want a nice home, and to feel good. I believe that these are the basic wants and needs of everyone. But the specifics of how to get them may change from person to person. I do not believe this will be easy, nor will it come quickly. I believe this journey could help everyone. It doesn’t matter your age, family status, or income. There is room for improvement in all our lives. Let’s find it, and improve them!!
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